Tonight, I met a friend for beers. He is a good guy, a first responder, a true man, humble, quiet, honest, and a true savage. When things go wrong, he is the guy you want there. But you would never know this about him unless you really knew him.
At the end of the bar, a guy was talking to a couple of girls. He was posturing, aka peacocking. He said things like, "I am so important." "I am an actual big deal."
To me, this is an immediate red flag. People who are important, who are a big deal, and who have actually done real things don't have to advertise.
Men who have actually earned their man card, don't go waving it around.
Then this guy went into stories about how tough he had been in certain scenarios with other men. No specifics. No details. A lot of, I said this, then he said this, then I said this. The end. He was bragging about how "tough" he was. And I feel certain this guy has never seen a day or even a moment of true violence in his life.
I have met a lot of true savages in my life. A lot of real men. These guys are real killers. They know real violence. They have also led real men in real-life situations requiring groups of real men.
These guys are always the quietest men in the room. They open doors for women, they are respectful to everyone, and they are kind, considerate, and caring. They sit in the corner and keep to themselves. They don't brag. They don't posture. They are humble, undersell themselves, and they minimize who and what they are and what they've done. They give credit to others.
This guy was the poster child for everything real men aren't.
He was a true dough bag. A real chameleon.
Chameleons are scary. They are the scariest of all human forms.
The weirdest thing was these women were eating it up! They couldn't get enough of him. But they couldn't see the forest through the trees.
I share this for this reason - If you are this guy, get a grip on your life and who you really are. Your life will never amount to what's possible if you have to pretend to be something you are not. You will always be chasing a moving target of who you think you need to be.
And women - pay attention to these red flags. If you fall for this, you are going down a path that will not lead you to what you need or what you want.
Chameleons should be avoided at all costs.
Cheers,
Chris
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